Relationship therapy Hoorn

Another job, further education, living together, getting engaged, becoming parents, etc.

All these life-changing events change you as a person and as partners. If you can't keep up with each other, you'll drift apart. Ambiguities arise, miscommunications occur, and before you know it, you've lost each other. Every life-changing event changes you. Think about yourself. You're not the same person you were ten years ago. And that's understandable. Your partner isn't the same person they were ten years ago either. 

How do you approach life now? What's your vision for the future? What's your shared vision for the future? Do you ever talk about it, or do you consciously avoid it? How do you bring all these topics and themes together, and how will you approach them together?

This is a very nice topic for relationship therapy.

Discussing intimacy is perhaps the hardest thing in a relationship. How do you express to each other what you need and what you value?

Intimacy is connection

What is the difference between men and women and what is your interpretation of that?
Have you ever discussed this? What do you enjoy in terms of intimacy? What are your expectations? 
What we often hear and see is that there's actually little difference in intimacy between men and women. It's often a matter of expectations and assumptions. 
You may hear stories from your friends about their relationship and how good the intimacy is and that they are intimate with each other 2 or 3 times a week.
Often, these kinds of statements aren't true. When your life gets busier and demands are placed on you in all sorts of other areas, intimacy usually falls by the wayside.
It's therefore crucial to have meaningful conversations about this. This is such a vulnerable aspect of the relationship that these kinds of conversations often go wrong. 

Intimacy during female menopause:

During menopause, a woman's body undergoes a significant hormonal change. We often encounter the following:

If other issues are also present alongside menopause, such as mental health issues or traumatic life events, then menopause can be an additional trigger during the transition. If the psychological aspect is addressed effectively, the transition will be easier to navigate and partners will be better able to discuss it with each other.

If there is infidelity, cheating, adultery or an extramarital affair, we opt for a specialist approach.

It's awful when your partner is cheated on. There can be all sorts of reasons why your partner committed this transgression. We start by restoring safety in the relationship for the betrayed partner.

From this place of safety, we will work step by step to build trust.

We'll also explore the infidelity with you in depth so you can understand why it happened the way it did. This will help you prevent the infidelity from happening again and give you more stability. Infidelity often seems like the end of a relationship. It can also be a brutal eye-opener. The problems are addressed during therapy, giving the relationship a second chance.

It's understandable that you don't want to take the step to relationship therapy at exactly the same time. We often hear it: one of the two doesn't want to, or doesn't want to yet.

However, this is the main reason couples wait too long. Because partners repeatedly postpone seeking our help, the permanent rift occurs. Also, realize that a divorce is much more expensive, both financially and emotionally. Not only for you, but also for the children.

We urge you to take the plunge and invest in each other early. This investment will pay off handsomely. Your children will thank you, because divorced parents are always a tremendous loss for any child.